A couple I know just lost their baby, she was 7mths along, what do I say?

The wife of the man doing the design for my web site just lost her baby last night. I know know him, but never spoke to his wife. I want to offer words of comfort. What is the best thing to do? Send flowers or a card? Are there any words or verses, that can offer solice and peace in a time like this? It was their first child. I feel just so sad for them.

A couple I know just lost their baby, she was 7mths along, what do I say?
definitely send a card...it will mean so much to her that you, just a person her husband works for, cares enough (even though you don%26#039;t know her) to send a card...


what i would say would be to offer your condolences, if you%26#039;ve lost a loved one before, you can tell them that and that you know what it%26#039;s like to lose a loved one and that you%26#039;ll be praying for them...of if you haven%26#039;t, then you can say that you can%26#039;t even imagine the pain of losing a child and that you%26#039;ll be praying for them...


i don%26#039;t know if you%26#039;re a Christian, but if you are, then i%26#039;d offer some words of comfort about God...don%26#039;t quote the Bible, but just say how He%26#039;s always been there to comfort you and He is willing to be there to comfort her...


be honest and just express how sad you are for them and that even though u don%26#039;t know her, you are sad...it will mean a lot to her...


if you want to cook something for her, that would be a nice thing, too...ask her if she would like some time alone with her husband and offer to give him some days off and to come back when he%26#039;s ready, kind of thing...


it%26#039;s very nice of you to want to do something like this for someone you don%26#039;t know...too bad there aren%26#039;t more people out there who feel true sympathy for people...
Reply:Sending flowers or a card would be nice. I believe if you want to add a personal touch a poem or your own words of encouragement are fine to add also.
Reply:I would send a card expressing your sympathies. I think the best thing you can say to someone on the event of a death is just to express your support and to be there. There%26#039;s not a whole lot that can be said to make a person feel better in a situation like this. It mostly just takes time. If she needs a shoulder to cry on just be there for her to do so. And remind her that it will get better and easier.
Reply:Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing and just let them know that you are around, because I am sure that someone already has said too much and do you think they really want to here anymore?
Reply:I would send a card. Just to show support.
Reply:Don%26#039;t send flowers, but do send a card with some kind words. It%26#039;s a terrible thing to happen.
Reply:There is nothing you can say thats going to take the hurt away.But showing your support and giving your prayers will help be a comfort.I have went through a miscarriage myself,and i lost one in a tubel pregnancy,its a horrible empty feeling.Everything happens for a reason even though its hard to see that way.Pray for them and let them know you care,things will get better for them in due time.
Reply:flowers and a card. you didnt really know them, thats all you can do.
Reply:I wouldnt say anything,I%26#039;d just let it go and let her heal by not being constantly reminded of it. Just tell her husband how sorry you are.
Reply:If it%26#039;s nobody you really know, just a note or card saying you%26#039;re sorry is fine. Just what you said--that you feel so sad for them--would be the best thing you could write. If it were someone you were close to, telling her that you are sorry and inviting her to talk to you whenever she needs to would be appropriate. And then being available (when possible) and really listening...even if it takes her months or a couple of years.





If you have an ongoing relationship, sending another note or card on what should have been the baby%26#039;s birthday would also be thoughtful. The due date will likely be a very hard time for the mother, and many (maybe most) of her friends won%26#039;t know or bother.
Reply:Send a card or small bouquet of flowers. Make it simple and nothing too fancy or big.
Reply:I would make them a meal and take it to their house. It%26#039;s a thoughtful gesture and it says a lot without having to really say anything. They probably don%26#039;t feel like doing much cooking so chances are they would really appreciate a nice meal. Pack some paper plates, cups, and plastic ustensils in with the food so they won%26#039;t have to do dishes. Pack the food in disposable containers, too.
Reply:Unfortunately, there isn%26#039;t anyhting you can offer that will lessen their pain. Pray for them and simply say you are sorry. However, if they don%26#039;t bring it up to you, don%26#039;t bring it up to them. In time%26#039;s like this people are often compelled to share their own stories, which only adds to the horror and depression. They may need to avoid the topic for awhile in order to not cry in front of everyone they know.
Reply:I don%26#039;t think there is anything you can %26quot;say%26quot; right now that will bring comfort... You can send a sympathy card and flowers showing your sorrow for them, and if you attend the funeral, please don%26#039;t try to %26quot;make them feel better%26quot; - you can%26#039;t... Just show-up and hug them... Look them in the eye and say something like %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry... If you ever need to talk, I%26#039;m here%26quot; and hug again.
Reply:Flowers or a card would be nice to show that you care. I think the most important thing you can say is just that you are there for them. Letting the person know that in a tragic situation is the best thing that you can do.


Also suggesting some websites they can look at, or even someone that they could talk to would be very valuable



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