I've been married fr 5 yrs. now. But recently after the baby arrived,we've been fighting a lot.?

From the time i got pregnant, i%26#039;ve been fighting a lot with my husband. His no-care attitude with the baby, makes me mad. He says i get mad too fast f%26#039;r the slightest reason. I dont know, but it%26#039;s getting into me. I feel like leaving him but i also love him too much. He%26#039;s a fine man, brings me flowers and cards and takes me out most of the time. But we fight and we fight bad. I hit him and he hits me back. When he hits me, it hurts bad and i get mad like a devil. What%26#039;s goin on here? does anyone know?

I%26#039;ve been married fr 5 yrs. now. But recently after the baby arrived,we%26#039;ve been fighting a lot.?
I know how you feel, I have a son hes 10 months old and we fought alot after he was born, and its because i thought that he didnt care too, See Maybe you should just sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel, thats what i did, and we havent had ne problems for awhile {Knock on wood} But you should just talk to him, and i know how you feel when the man you love hits you, it makes you feel bad and like your no good, and everything else I have been there
Reply:You two must see a marriage counselor NOW.
Reply:you both have to stop....


he loves you ... you love him ... and both of you love your baby...


you both are so lucky to have each other and your baby... if he is a bit care less abut the baby it does not mean that he does not love his baby.


give him time to get use to this big change... and remember that:


A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.





Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.


Good Luck
Reply:Post partom depression could be a contributing factor. Men do get jealous and it is a big change to have a new baby and hard for some to adjust. The hitting is not a good thing at all. That is crossing boundaries. What will that teach your child. I think that you should both go to see a marriage counseler together.





Best of luck to the three of you!!!
Reply:This is something that should NEVER go on in any relationship. ESPECIALLY when there is a child in the home!! You MUST seek a marriage councilor immediately!! Make the call, as soon as possible or get away from each other. In the meantime, you need to control yourself and stop hitting him. Granted, a man should never hit a woman, but you shouldn%26#039;t be hitting, either. Please seek professional help.
Reply:The first part of your question sounds like you had hormone imbalance. This can occur during pregnancy and years after. It can cause erradic behavior on your part.





The second part of your question sounds like you both are out of control. Hitting is NEVER an option for you or him. If it has gone this far I suggest you divorce. Even with hormone treatment the mental scars from the physical abuse you have inflicted upon each other will never fully heal. Once you become parents the priority is the child. Your baby does not need to be in this environment. Seek medical help for the hormone imbalance and psychiatric counseling for the abuse. If you don%26#039;t learn a healthy way to express yourself it will be only a matter of months before you both start hitting the baby.
Reply:some times itslike that when you get a new baby ,,wait it out it will get better,show more affection to each other until then
Reply:there%26#039;s nothing like a new baby to create turmoil in a relationship. you%26#039;re hormonal, he%26#039;s losing ground as the most important priority, the lack of sleep, added responsibility - try to talk to a counselor, please do not hit each other! If you can get through the first year or so, you will find it easier. good luck!
Reply:Maybe you are getting the baby blues to soon, get counseling before you take it to far and end up regreating what you might do or make him do (if you really love him)
Reply:yea, the hitting has got to stop, like now, if both of you can hit one another and you have a new baby there. you need to get your things or let him get his and get out. if you can hit now and have a temper, one of you could very easly take it to the next level. get out or him and try if you want to with council,but not living in the same house and having a baby there hitting one or the other.
Reply:Most men get jealous of the baby when you first get pregnant then when its born, but if he hits you, that%26#039;s not common. He needs some counseling or its gonna get worse, not better. Talk about this problem with him NOW. Don%26#039;t wait. Kids notice and will pick up everything even as infants.
Reply:I think from reading the other answers, which are great, you pretty much have your answer!How old are you?When you bring a child into this world, that becomes the priority but it is a matter of adjustment. It takes time for you, your body to adjust to the hormone change, body image is different, and now also sleepless nights, responsibilities. Get self-control or learn how to from a good therapist in your area, NOW!PRONTO! You guys need somebody who can help you through this, and the answer is not to hit or fight. It is okay to argue, but you also have to after the argument, and cleared the air by talking, COMMUNICATION, you need time for each other to make up! It%26#039;s the hardest time that first year when a baby is born, and things will always go up and down, you need to know how to ride the wave!Good luck, prayers to you, your husband and your new baby! Congratulations!:)
Reply:I believe it happens to most new parents, the quarreling part I meant. Whether good or bad reason, there must have been something big that caused him to hit you.





I agree what others have said, you guys got to go counseling. You guys might also want to try talking about you guys issue as if it was a third party%26#039;s issue. Like %26quot;I have this friend who%26#039;s married for 5 year, now expecting... %26quot;. It works most of the time because most of us are more objective about others issues and doesn%26#039;t feel confronted upon that easily.





In my opinion, try the third party approach first, and let that lead to the counseling bit.
Reply:He hits you and you want to know if you should leave??? Next time he hits you call 911. Get an attorney. Once a wife beater, always a wife beater.
Reply:Listen! Times do get a little rough when you have a new addition to the family but that is no excuse for domestic violence. If he hits you, it will only be time before he will hit your child. And that is unexcuseable! You need to get out while you can before you end up afraid for your life and have no way to escape. Your life and that of your child is way too important to put it in danger by being with an abusive man!



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