Should i stay just because we have a baby?

Me and my partner have got a 10 month old baby together, We have been together for 4 years and live together.


I%26#039;m really unhappy at the moment, he never wants to do anything with us and if he does drag himself away from his playstation he doesn%26#039;t stop complaining. I work 3 days a week but because he works 5 i%26#039;m expected to get up with our baby every night and i%26#039;m exhausted because of it. I clean the house, do all the shopping and sort out anything finacial.


If he does hoover the house he expects a gold medal for doing so and if i dont say thanks straight away he wont speak to me for the rest of the day.


Me and my daughter come second to his playstation and its really starting to get me down, i feel like a single parent. I have tried to tell him so many times and i get a bunch of flowers and he changes into the man i met and want for a whole week then slowly goes back ro his way.


Please help, what should i do? I love him and my daughter so much and i really do%26#039;n want to break up.

Should i stay just because we have a baby?
Never, ever stay just for the sake of the baby. If you and your partner really do love each other, you%26#039;ll find some way, somehow that things can work between the two of you. BUT, if you%26#039;ve exhausted all your efforts on making things work, then I encourage you to get out. I will guarantee it will be even more difficult for you from a physical and monetary perspective, but you won%26#039;t have the emotional concerns you have today, and maybe even unknowingly sharing with your child. Kids are a LOT more intelligent than we sometimes give them credit for, and they can sense when something isn%26#039;t right. Talk to your partner and let him know you%26#039;re all involved in an unhealthy relationship right now, and you only want what%26#039;s best for your child. Let him know it%26#039;s a two way street, and the two of you need to communicate with each other what might be bothering you about the other person. Let him know the playstation should NOT be his first priority... His family should. Then hear him out also, as he may have some legitimate gripes as well. Hang in there! If it%26#039;s worth having - it%26#039;s worth fighting for! Good luck!
Reply:You are a single parent with two kids. Keep the little one (you might be able to work with him/her). I raised my daughter as a single parent, I was very involved with her life. She is 21 yrs old and studying to be a pharmacist. We keep in touch and love each other very much. Had I married her deadbeat Father, who knows what would have happened. Kids are not stupid they can see the tension in your relationship, or they grow up looking for one like it. You are a role model, your life will be a pattern for your child to follow. If you have a boy do you really want him to grow up just like good ole dad? Or if you have a girl do you really want her to involve herself in a loveless relationship. Concentrate on your child and what is BEST for him/her. Maybe you will meet a man who will be a partner and a father, if not, you CAN be both mom and dad.
Reply:I had twins and breast fed so you already know who got up with them at night. I was only 18 at the time and had to get over it. I figured I was the most responsible and I didn%26#039;t want any one taking care of those babies but me. It can really switch around and you can get so protective over them that you don%26#039;t want ANYONE touching them. I was very overprotective. As far as the PlayStation let him have some enjoyment in life. At least when he is in front of it he is at home and not running the streets. When you do tell him how you feel wait until the baby is in bed and all the domestic chores are done and it is quiet time


He will be able to process it better and it will sink in better. Baby and Job are an all day all week event and it%26#039;s a lot of work and doing both you are to be applauded. If there isn%26#039;t infidelity and domestic violence I would try to work this out and keep your family together.
Reply:It sounds like you guys have a communication problem, first off. He seems a bit old-fashioned as far as home and child responsibilities also. Many women are expected to come home everyday and work %26quot;the second shift%26quot; which refers to the responsibilities at home being as overwhelming as a second job. Today, the male should take on domestic responsibilities to working mothers. I suggest that you see a marriage therapist or someone else %26quot;trusted%26quot; that could serve as mediator. Some couples do not communicate at all, and need help simply learning to communicate in a healthy manner. Being divorced, both my ex and I are single parents and trust me, it is harder that way. In all honesty, we still gave up too soon, in retrospect. At least try and work things out.
Reply:Talk to him, tell him all the things u feel, first know what he thinks, then take a desition..
Reply:take the baby away and put him on child support



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